The new normal: Our collective stress is nothing new for foster kids

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Shock, denial, disbelief, confusion, difficulty concentrating, anxiety, fear … these are all symptoms of trauma.

If you've never dealt with stress, anxiety, and grief on a regular basis before, you're likely very familiar with it now.

This COVID-19 pandemic has changed the very fabric of our daily lives. Normal is not a thing anymore. Things are both ever-changing and overwhelmingly stagnant. We don't know what tomorrow will bring, and some days we almost dread what awaits us when the sun rises.

This feeling, this all-consuming, life-changing feeling, is common for many children in foster care...every day.

Not knowing when they can return home. Not knowing if they'll see their own families again. Not knowing how long this will last. Not knowing when they'll see their friends or teachers or when they'll get a hug from someone who cares about them.

It's hard enough for us as adults with support systems. Imagine what this feels like to children without them.

This is part of the reason why a CASA is so important. When a child's life is turned upside down through no fault of their own, it's traumatic. They need someone to help them through that trauma. Someone to explain to them that what happened to them was not their fault and that now they have an adult – an advocate – who isn't going anywhere. They have someone to help make sure their needs are being met and their present turmoil doesn't have to be their future life.

There are currently more than 500 children in foster care in Luzerne County because of abuse and neglect. We currently have volunteer advocates speaking up for the best interests of 74 of those children.

But there are still hundreds more.

Once this pandemic has passed, we'll return to life as normal. We'll be back in the gym, in restaurants with our friends, at the movies with our families. Eventually the panic and fear will subside and we'll sink back into that comfortable security most of us had before this started.

Those children who are waiting for an advocate will likely not have that same luxury.

This is why it's important for our community to continue to come together. From advocates, to donors, to those who share our mission with others, we are all working together to strengthen the foundation of our community and stop cycles of trauma before they continue to new generations.

If you'd like to talk to us about becoming an advocate, you can reach out to us here. If you'd like to be donor, you can donate online here or participate in the 501cFree virtual fundraiser here. If you'd like to share the need for CASA with others, you can follow us on Facebook here.

Advocate Spotlight: Michelle Kozich

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NEPA Sings 2018 is what sparked Michelle Kozich's interest in CASA of Luzerne County. 

"I had no idea what CASA was at the time, but I love music and bought a couple of tickets to NEPA Sings," Michelle said. "As I learned about CASA that evening, I knew it would be something I'd eventually do, it was just a matter of finding the right time." 

A year later, Michelle was in our spring training class and officially began her advocacy in June 2019. 

She has been advocating for four siblings and has shown them that there is an adult out there who cares what happens to them. 

After a hearing, one of the children thanked Michelle for her advocacy. 

"She said, 'Thank you for everything you did for me today,'" Michelle recounted. "I realized in that moment that she noticed. She knew I was there for her and that I was there because I wanted to be, not because I had to be. I'll never forget that moment." 

Michelle is proof that if you're determined to make a difference, nothing can stand in your way. She works a full time job and is still devoted to her family and her own life. 

"Becoming an advocate is truly a decision you won't regret," Michelle said. "There are children you will make an impact on in such a positive way."

If, like Michelle, you're ready to change the life of a child who is waiting for you, please reach out to us. We postponed our spring training class that was scheduled to begin on March 25th due to COVID-19. However, we'd love to talk to you if you're interested in learning more about becoming a volunteer advocate.

Michelle lives in Plains with her husband of 23 years. They are parents to two adult children and three cats.